Update on Tony’s Kidney

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.
~Napoleon Hill.

Dear friends,

Adversity has hit us once again. Just when we thought everything was in the clear—that we would be blessed with a donor– we received disheartening and disappointing news yesterday. We were told that the surgery was cancelled and “not moving forward…three weeks before the operation, which was to take place on May 25th.

We were informed that our Tony’s and Taylor’s surgical teams met and decided that it was not in Tony’s best interest to proceed with the transplant operation.

According to Taylor, the surgical teams decided in their final preparations that the chances of Tony keeping his kidney long- term would be affected with this operation and would altogether eliminate his chances of getting another kidney should he need it again down the road.

It is a shocking setback to our hope for a bright future for Tony. We feel as if a rug has been pulled from underneath our feet. For the past 24 hours, we have been struck by tidal waves of hopelessness and despair. It was a one in a millionth chance that we would find a heroic friend who was willing to get tested and courageous enough to part with one of his kidneys so that Tony could live a normal life. Now, that “one in a millionth chance” evaporated like the morning mist.

However, we have had travelled down this road before. This is just a temporary setback and heartache. We learned that, “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Even though we are now back to the drawing board, we know that there is a better plan for Tony. We will not sit in idleness and drown ourselves in sorrow and despair. We will keep moving and with your help we will keep on searching until we find a donor who will be a perfect match–hence the bright future for our son.

We are grateful to our friend and hero, Taylor Tagg, his family and their friends for their kindness, love and their continued support for our family.

In addition, we would also like to thank our friends, neighbors and strangers alike, near and far, who have sent us their love, support, and donations. We are truly blessed and humbled. We also like to extend our appreciation to the media outlet that broadcasted our voices. Together, as a community, we have created more awareness on kidney diseases; the importance of being a donor, and the financial and emotional burden that a family may face when encountering such adversities.

At this point in time, we have decided to put the fund that we have raised and will continue raise (https://www.youcaring.com/anthonyachhim-794666) into a “Kidney for Anthony Chhim” Fund account, which will be untouched until we find a new kidney donor. For any money unused, we pledge to donate it to the National Kidney Foundation.

If you would like to help, please get tested to see if you are a match; Tony’s blood type is “O.” If your blood type is “O” and you want to be tested further, please contact me at 845-642-3232 or at timothychhim@aol.com. Any other questions can be addressed to me as well.

Thank you everyone for your continued prayers and thoughts as our family overcome this hardship. We wish you and your family love, health, wealth and happiness.

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New York man seeks funding help to save son’s life


New York man seeks funding help to save son’s life
After miraculously finding a kidney donor matching his son’s rare blood type, this Rotary club member and former Nanuet Chamber of Commerce president reaches out for help.

Thiells, NY—A New York man, who has given back to the New York Rockland County community for years, is now asking for help to save his only son’s life.
Thiells resident and Allstate Insurance Agency Owner Timothy Chhim is known in the area for his involvement and charity work — he was the first Nanuet Chamber of Commerce president; member of the Nanuet/West Nyack Rotary Club; Napoleon Hill Foundation Certified Instructor; past chairman Brooklyn Watt Samakki Dhamikkara, Buddhist Temple; and co-author of Adversity to Advantage.
Chhim started the website KidneyForAnthonyChhim.com to tell his 31-year-old son’s story.
“Anthony Achariya Chhim (“Tony”), needs a kidney transplant,” he said, explaining Tony’s kidneys failed in 2010, prompting Tony’s mother Neang to offer one of hers.
More than 93,000 people are on the waiting list for a kidney transplant, according to the United Network of Organ Sharing (UNOS).
However, five difficult years later, Tony’s body rejected her kidney. Yet again, another brave person stepped up, this time, a close family friend, Taylor Tagg.
Despite finding a willing kidney donor with a matching rare blood type, the Chhims find themselves facing another hurdle.
“As happy as we are, we are not out of the woods yet. We may have a donor but we are short on funds to cover [Tony’s] traveling, lodging and recovery expenses,” said Chhim. “We are expecting the expenses to be more than $10,000 and we are pledging that the unused money will be donated to a Kidney Foundation or a not-for-profit organization on behalf of the donor and Tony.”
He started the YouCaring crowdfunding website on April 6, which has so far raised $2,805 of the $10,000 goal.
Chhim is not a stranger to hardships in life as he survived the Khmer Rogue Genocide in Cambodia, avoiding the execution block three times. However, that experience rivals that of what he feels now over his son’s chance at life.
“It devastates me to watch my son suffer,” said Chhim. “Though the dialysis does the job of keeping him alive, a transplant would offer him the ability to live a longer, healthier and more normal life. It would allow him to follow his dreams, return to his passion of creating video games and to run his company Quantum Imagination Studios. A new and functional kidney would also give him time with his family and friends, something many of us take for granted.”
Donations are accepted through the YouCaring crowdfunding website https://www.youcaring.com/anthonyachhim-794666 Further details of the Chhims’ journey are at KidneyForAnthonyChhim.com

Photo Captions:
Tony Chhim and his 6-month-old nephew Jace
Taylor Tagg (left) is donating his kidney to Tony Chhim

Timothy Chhim, timothychhim@aol.com, 845-642-3232


5 Great Reasons Why I’m Donating a Kidney

5 Great Reasons Why I’m Donating a Kidney

04/13/2017 12:35 pm ET

From the Huffington Post

Taylor Tagg, Contributor
Life Coach, Author, Speaker, and Workshop Facilitator


All of my life, I’ve prided myself on being giving of my time and talents to those who need it. From running a charity golf tournament with my father, to volunteering weekly at an orphanage, to providing time and resources for a big children’s cancer research run, I was pretty confident that my level of giving to others was sufficient.

When the opportunity presented itself recently to get tested for a kidney donation for my friend Tim Chhim’s son Tony, I thought, “Well, I’ll do my duty and get tested. Nothing will come of it.”

Boy, was I wrong.

I turned out to be a perfect blood match for Tony, who I had not met at the time.

I thought to myself, “What do I do? Was I really going to say no? Was I really going to give away an organ?”

I wrestled with this emotional tug of war for a few minutes, felt the fear of losing an organ my body was using but could survive without, and then I ultimately said yes.

In agreeing to the donation, I opened a door for The Chhim family that had not been available to them for years. They had searched the world for a donor with no luck. Now Tony could plan for a long, healthy life and gain permanent mobility away from the dialysis center.

Needless to say, the Chhim family was beyond grateful with my decision.

Yet, I had to dig deeper into why I was giving the kidney and why now at 46 years old?

The answers weren’t clear at first.

But a funny thing happened as I told others of my decision. Almost every single person seemed surprised that I would give a kidney to a friend that wasn’t a family member. I replied, “I don’t see the distinction. To me, a person in need is a person in need.” Then I followed up with, “I was an only child for many years and I always wanted a brother. Now I have one!”

Underneath the laughter, there can be a great sense of love and fear that accompanies organ donation. While being very helpful to another life, there are thoughts of your remaining kidney failing, surgery gone wrong, and a litany of other what ifs. It was important for me to meet these fears head on and work through them mentally and emotionally.

The answers of why I’m donating did eventually become clear.

Here are the 5 Reasons I’m Giving My Kidney Away:

1. Life Supporting Life – more than anything, when the call comes to help, I want to be thought of as a person who can be counted on. It’s an act of love and contribution to support life when you give away your time, talents, or other resources. By giving a kidney to Tony, I am in essence not only supporting the extension of his life, but indirectly supporting all of life itself.

2. Helping my Hero – when the call came, I acted in kind to help my friend Tim Chhim. His heroic act of survival through the Cambodian Khmer Rouge massacres in the early 70’s has inspired me to be more heroic in my life. It was natural for me to want to return a gift he gave me through his courage and perseverance to live.

3. Understanding the Research – most people can live a very healthy life with one kidney with no shortage of life expectancy. The one remaining kidney becomes more efficient and expands in capacity to meet the needs of the body. In addition to finding out the facts, I talked with living donors, recipients, doctors, surgeons, and a host of other professionals with tremendous experience in the field. I kept asking questions until I was comfortable with my decision.

4. The Need for Organ Donation is Tremendous – over 100,000 people are on the kidney transplant list in the United States. That list is growing every day. Other organ lists such as liver donation are growing exponentially as well. Organ donation awareness has become important to me and I’m donating my kidney in part to be an example for others to gather the courage to investigate potential donation of their own.

5. It’s a Unique Blessing – to give a part of my physical body away is truly a blessing from above. It’s just my time to give in a special way. I don’t expect anything in return for the gift, but knowing I’ve helped Tony improve the quality of his life inspires me to want to keep giving of myself in other ways and champion others to give too.

Organ donation is a decision that needs to be thoroughly considered. It’s not right for everyone, but for some it can be the right call to make. Life has a weird way of quietly tapping us on the shoulder for our assistance when we least expect it.

The question becomes will we step up when called?

Through overcoming our fears and ultimately displaying love for our fellow brothers and sisters, we most certainly can get to the point where we all emphatically say YES!

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